Discipline: God Disciplines who He loves to shape us
The Foundation of discipline is …
A. unconditional love, not deserved or requested, comes out of who we are
B. pathic (sp?)acceptance – feel with them
I don’t have to make you into what I think the perfect child should be
What does THIS child need to thrive and grow up?
1. LOVE – “Love not expressed is Love lost”
Touch, Cuddle, Play
Harder to discipline them if they don’t feel this love
2. Love is not enough – Establishment & Maintenance of Healthy Boundaries
Learning to limit one’s desires
Discipline is not punishment – Discipline is shaping one’s character
“Parenting with Love & Logic” has great tools to discipline
Goal: grow up to love other people, have empathy, be a responsible caring adult
How do you raise loving adults?
*Give & Receive Love
*Establishment of Boundaries that they have to follow with logical consequences
*Sacrificing for Others – change them from thinking they are the Center of the Universe
Learning to give up of needs for the sake of others
Plan experiences for your child to give up their things, their needs
If they are a selfish child they will become a selfish adult
Learning “To set aside your needs for a time for others”
3. Your Action changes their behavior
They will push until you take action.
Discipline is the stuff you DO not what you say that matters.
If you don’t do what you say they will never listen.
Teach them Responsibility at a really young age – putting things away is as much fun as playing with them.
4. I have to be willing to make my child unhappy/cry/hurt their feelings
Choose child’s respect over child’s love
Whatever may make you back down – you have to withstand
“To have a child is to take the risk of being wounded.”
When you love you cannot guarantee they will love back or be exactly who you want them to be.
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