Discipline: God Disciplines who He loves to shape us
The Foundation of discipline is …
A. unconditional love, not deserved or requested, comes out of who we are
B. pathic (sp?)acceptance – feel with them
I don’t have to make you into what I think the perfect child should be
What does THIS child need to thrive and grow up?
1. LOVE – “Love not expressed is Love lost”
Touch, Cuddle, Play
Harder to discipline them if they don’t feel this love
2. Love is not enough – Establishment & Maintenance of Healthy Boundaries
Learning to limit one’s desires
Discipline is not punishment – Discipline is shaping one’s character
“Parenting with Love & Logic” has great tools to discipline
Goal: grow up to love other people, have empathy, be a responsible caring adult
How do you raise loving adults?
*Give & Receive Love
*Establishment of Boundaries that they have to follow with logical consequences
*Sacrificing for Others – change them from thinking they are the Center of the Universe
Learning to give up of needs for the sake of others
Plan experiences for your child to give up their things, their needs
If they are a selfish child they will become a selfish adult
Learning “To set aside your needs for a time for others”
3. Your Action changes their behavior
They will push until you take action.
Discipline is the stuff you DO not what you say that matters.
If you don’t do what you say they will never listen.
Teach them Responsibility at a really young age – putting things away is as much fun as playing with them.
4. I have to be willing to make my child unhappy/cry/hurt their feelings
Choose child’s respect over child’s love
Whatever may make you back down – you have to withstand
“To have a child is to take the risk of being wounded.”
When you love you cannot guarantee they will love back or be exactly who you want them to be.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Meeting 2/10/11
I was so sad to miss Pastor Jim Mead speak yesterday. I have talked to a few people about it and am waiting for notes (for myself and this blog). What are your thoughts about yesterday's speaker? What did you take away from it that you will implement into your parenting?
My Peace
Here is today's devotion from Jesus Calling:
"My Peace is like a shaft of golden Light shining on your continuously. During days of bright sunshine, in may blend in with your surroundings. On darker days, My Peace stands out in sharp contrast to your circumstances. See times of darkness as opportunities for My Light to shine in transcendent splendor. I am training you to practice Peace that overpowers darkness. Collaborate with Me in this training. Do not grow weary and lose heart."
John 1:4-5; Hebrews 12:3
"My Peace is like a shaft of golden Light shining on your continuously. During days of bright sunshine, in may blend in with your surroundings. On darker days, My Peace stands out in sharp contrast to your circumstances. See times of darkness as opportunities for My Light to shine in transcendent splendor. I am training you to practice Peace that overpowers darkness. Collaborate with Me in this training. Do not grow weary and lose heart."
John 1:4-5; Hebrews 12:3
Pot Pie
I have always LOVED pot pie. My favorite is my mom's simple one. However I keep hearing of the Pioneer Woman's Amazing Turkey Pot Pie http://thepioneerwoman.com/cooking/2009/11/quick-recipe-leftover-turkey-pot-pie/. So I thought I would try it. It is YUMMY!! I switched up a couple things, I added chicken and used fat free half and half because that is what I had. The fat free half and half is thinner so I had to add some cornstarch to thicken it a bit more. I also cheated on the crust. I had a frozen pie shell so I just had to make a crust to put on top. I made it for my family to eat when I wasn't home last night. So today I finally tried it for lunch, I almost think Pot Pie leftovers are better. This is an easy/cheap meal that I think might be my "new baby" meal for friends. I really want to try and freeze it before the baking process so I can make more than one at a time. Let me know if any you try that or have tried it before.
Time at home
I was thinking about the last time I updated and realized it was last week. Sorry!! I am always thinking about stuff to share with our MOPS group. Wednesday and thursday we were homebound with a girl who threw up once (but you still have to follow the 24 hr rule for germs)! I should have had time to updated then.
Have you ever thought "If I could just be home for a whole day I could get so much more accomplished". I do know some of you with younger ones feel like sometimes you are home too much, but with one in school, one in preschool, Bible study and MOPS, I am never home for a solid day. So I should have had time to update the blog. But what I found myself doing was moving a little slower because I didn't have anywhere to be. I actually got laundry put away within 24hrs of it being folded. I sat down and did bible study homework. Cleaned up lunch right after lunch. All the jobs in the house that scream at me and it was nice to pay attention to them instead of rushing through or past them. What is your favorite thing about having a day at home when you know you don't have to get in the car once? Or what is you favorite thing to do to escape the cabin fever or housework?
Have you ever thought "If I could just be home for a whole day I could get so much more accomplished". I do know some of you with younger ones feel like sometimes you are home too much, but with one in school, one in preschool, Bible study and MOPS, I am never home for a solid day. So I should have had time to update the blog. But what I found myself doing was moving a little slower because I didn't have anywhere to be. I actually got laundry put away within 24hrs of it being folded. I sat down and did bible study homework. Cleaned up lunch right after lunch. All the jobs in the house that scream at me and it was nice to pay attention to them instead of rushing through or past them. What is your favorite thing about having a day at home when you know you don't have to get in the car once? Or what is you favorite thing to do to escape the cabin fever or housework?
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Happy Month of Hearts, Pink and Red and LOVE
While Valentines Day is so commercialized it is a great time to show some extra love to the people in your life. They can range from simple little love notes to a special dinner out. Gifts of yummy chocolate to something more special. Heart shape sandwiches, their favorite dinner or a yummy chocolate dessert.
The most important thing to remember is that you are loved like no other by a God who wants you to be in relationship with Him.
The most important thing to remember is that you are loved like no other by a God who wants you to be in relationship with Him.
Spa Day recap
We hope you were able to sit back and relax last thursday. We were so happy to provide some activities for you to pamper yourself. What was your favorite park of spa day?
For those of you who signed up for the massage that didn't happen we are figuring out something special for you all!
What is your favorite spa activity?
How do you pamper yourself at home?
Some easy pampering you could do for yourself that we had for you:
1. Short massages
2. New Undergarments
3. Freshen up that nail polish
4. Give yourself 15 or more min of physical exercise a day
5. Curl your hair
6. Put on make up (one think I don't do daily anymore)
7. And a little big of a splurge. Parrafin hand or foot dips. The electric bowl thingy runs about $30 at Target, you can get the wax there too. Use what ever plastic you want and sit back and relax.
For those of you who signed up for the massage that didn't happen we are figuring out something special for you all!
What is your favorite spa activity?
How do you pamper yourself at home?
Some easy pampering you could do for yourself that we had for you:
1. Short massages
2. New Undergarments
3. Freshen up that nail polish
4. Give yourself 15 or more min of physical exercise a day
5. Curl your hair
6. Put on make up (one think I don't do daily anymore)
7. And a little big of a splurge. Parrafin hand or foot dips. The electric bowl thingy runs about $30 at Target, you can get the wax there too. Use what ever plastic you want and sit back and relax.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Family Movie Night
Chapel Hill is hosting a Family Movie Night!!
When: Friday January 28th, 2010 at 7pm
Where: Gathering Place
What: Affordable family fun. Admission donation and concessions only $.25. Bring your favorite plushy friend for the Best Stuffed Animal Contest.
When: Friday January 28th, 2010 at 7pm
Where: Gathering Place
What: Affordable family fun. Admission donation and concessions only $.25. Bring your favorite plushy friend for the Best Stuffed Animal Contest.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Mommy Deals
Does anyone else feel like there are all these mommy websites out there offering GREAT deals!! Places like Jump, Chevys, Spas, etc. Well if you aren't aware I thought I would pass along the few I know of. Please share with us any other one's that you know of.
www.mamapedia.com
www.livingsocial.com
www.groupon.com
On these you will need to enter your zip code or city to get deals. If you have family other places tell them about it or enter it yourself so you can get deals for when you visit. Also a tip; I have noticed that Gig harbor isn't usually an option (shocking I know!) and Tacoma usually isn't too. If you choose Seattle, it really picks from everywhere around Seattle (so Tacoma, Gig Harbor, etc).
Hope this helps you save some money.
www.mamapedia.com
www.livingsocial.com
www.groupon.com
On these you will need to enter your zip code or city to get deals. If you have family other places tell them about it or enter it yourself so you can get deals for when you visit. Also a tip; I have noticed that Gig harbor isn't usually an option (shocking I know!) and Tacoma usually isn't too. If you choose Seattle, it really picks from everywhere around Seattle (so Tacoma, Gig Harbor, etc).
Hope this helps you save some money.
Spa Day
Just a reminder that this thursday is SPA DAY! Such a relaxing day at MOPS. Here are some reminders:
*Wear comfy clothes and kids come in jammies!
*You will recieve 3 raffle tickets (4 if you turned in your registration form last week), so don't forget to pick those up. There are a lot of great giveaways!
*This will be a laid back morning, so we won't be sitting at a table all morning. Move around, meet some new friends!
*Get your kids to Moppets on time and get to the Gathering Place quickly to sign up for a spa activity, (ONE per mom).
*There will be a lot of other stations to go to at your leisure: nail painting, make your own neck roll, jewelry cleaning and parafin hand waxing.
Can't wait to see you all on Thursday!
*Wear comfy clothes and kids come in jammies!
*You will recieve 3 raffle tickets (4 if you turned in your registration form last week), so don't forget to pick those up. There are a lot of great giveaways!
*This will be a laid back morning, so we won't be sitting at a table all morning. Move around, meet some new friends!
*Get your kids to Moppets on time and get to the Gathering Place quickly to sign up for a spa activity, (ONE per mom).
*There will be a lot of other stations to go to at your leisure: nail painting, make your own neck roll, jewelry cleaning and parafin hand waxing.
Can't wait to see you all on Thursday!
Quote
"Bringing up a family should be an adventure, not an anxious discipline in which everybody is constantly graded for performance."
-- Milton R. Saperstein
-- Milton R. Saperstein
Thursday, January 20, 2011
First "HELP" post
My Taylor just had his tonsils out yesterday and the first night was rough. Lot's of pain and having to stay on top of it makes for setting the alarm to get up often to keep meds in him.
So today I am really dragging and coffee doesn't always perk me up. So this lead me to my first "HELP" post.. Please comment to help a momma and other momma's out!! Here is the question:
How do you get through the day when you are dragging (tired, sick, grumpy, etc.)?
So today I am really dragging and coffee doesn't always perk me up. So this lead me to my first "HELP" post.. Please comment to help a momma and other momma's out!! Here is the question:
How do you get through the day when you are dragging (tired, sick, grumpy, etc.)?
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Food for Thought
On Sunday our pastor talked about the story of David and Goliath (if you are not familiar with this story her is a link online: http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm?b=1Sa&c=17&t=NASB#23)
David was a small man who conquered a GIANT because of his faith in God. The main point of the sermon was what Giant in your life do you need to conquer?
1. How will your faith in God help you do that?
2. What steps are you going to start making to conquer your GIANT?
Don't we all have something!! I know I do.
(If you go to the Chapel Hill website you can download sermon notes)
David was a small man who conquered a GIANT because of his faith in God. The main point of the sermon was what Giant in your life do you need to conquer?
1. How will your faith in God help you do that?
2. What steps are you going to start making to conquer your GIANT?
Don't we all have something!! I know I do.
(If you go to the Chapel Hill website you can download sermon notes)
Rachel Ray tote at Costco
I just picked up the best tote at Costco! For $14.99. It is the Rachel Ray high performance chillout thermal tote (two piece set: Large tote and smaller lunch bag type tote). Stays hot or cold for hours. Perfect for transporting food to MOPS. They claim that there is still ice after two days. I can't wait to use it.
A spin on Eggplant Parmesean
We had some eggplant from our produce delivery (side note: We recieve a box of organic produce delivered to our door every friday. Because they pick from the bountiful crops of the week we can get things that I normally wouldn't buy on a weekly basis. This has been great to increase what my kids will eat and the veggies we may actually buy on our own. Well we had eggplant that I may buy once or twice a year, so I had to come up with something creative.)
I love eggplant parmesean so I found this recipe on www.foodnetwork.com by Mario Batali.
Eggplant Parmesean: Parmigiana di Melanzane
Ingredients
2 pounds (about 2 medium-sized) eggplant
Salt
4 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1 cup fresh bread crumbs, seasoned with 1/4 chopped fresh basil leaves and 1/4 cup pecorino
2 cups Basic Tomato Sauce, recipe follows
1 pound ball fresh mozzarella, thinly sliced
1/2 cup freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano
Directions
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.
Wash and towel dry the eggplant. Slice the eggplant horizontally about 1/4-inch thick. Place the slices in a large colander, sprinkle with salt and set aside to rest about 30 minutes. Drain and rinse the eggplant and dry on towels.
In a saute pan, heat the extra-virgin olive oil until just smoking. Press the drained eggplant pieces into the seasoned bread crumb mixture and saute until light golden brown on both sides. Repeat with all of the pieces. On a cookie sheet lay out the 4 largest pieces of eggplant. Place 2 tablespoons of tomato sauce over each piece and place a thin slice of mozzarella on top of each. Sprinkle with Parmigiano and top each with the next smallest piece of eggplant, then sauce then mozzarella. Repeat the layering process until all the ingredients have been used, finishing again with the Parmigiano. Place the pan in the oven and bake until the top of each little stack is golden brown and bubbly, about 15 minutes.
Basic Tomato Sauce:
1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
1 Spanish onion, chopped into 1/4-inch dice
4 cloves garlic, peeled and thinly sliced
3 tablespoons fresh thyme leaves, chopped
1/2 medium carrot, finely shredded
2 (28-ounce) cans peeled whole tomatoes
Salt
Sauce:
In a 3-quart saucepan, heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add the onion and garlic and cook until soft and light golden brown, about 8 to 10 minutes. Add the thyme and carrot and cook 5 minutes more, until the carrot is quite soft. Add the tomatoes and juice and bring to a boil, stirring often. Lower the heat and simmer for 30 minutes until as thick as hot cereal. Season with salt and serve.
This sauce holds 1 week in the refrigerator or up to 6 months in the freezer.
Enjoy!!!
I love eggplant parmesean so I found this recipe on www.foodnetwork.com by Mario Batali.
Eggplant Parmesean: Parmigiana di Melanzane
Ingredients
2 pounds (about 2 medium-sized) eggplant
Salt
4 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1 cup fresh bread crumbs, seasoned with 1/4 chopped fresh basil leaves and 1/4 cup pecorino
2 cups Basic Tomato Sauce, recipe follows
1 pound ball fresh mozzarella, thinly sliced
1/2 cup freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano
Directions
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.
Wash and towel dry the eggplant. Slice the eggplant horizontally about 1/4-inch thick. Place the slices in a large colander, sprinkle with salt and set aside to rest about 30 minutes. Drain and rinse the eggplant and dry on towels.
In a saute pan, heat the extra-virgin olive oil until just smoking. Press the drained eggplant pieces into the seasoned bread crumb mixture and saute until light golden brown on both sides. Repeat with all of the pieces. On a cookie sheet lay out the 4 largest pieces of eggplant. Place 2 tablespoons of tomato sauce over each piece and place a thin slice of mozzarella on top of each. Sprinkle with Parmigiano and top each with the next smallest piece of eggplant, then sauce then mozzarella. Repeat the layering process until all the ingredients have been used, finishing again with the Parmigiano. Place the pan in the oven and bake until the top of each little stack is golden brown and bubbly, about 15 minutes.
Basic Tomato Sauce:
1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
1 Spanish onion, chopped into 1/4-inch dice
4 cloves garlic, peeled and thinly sliced
3 tablespoons fresh thyme leaves, chopped
1/2 medium carrot, finely shredded
2 (28-ounce) cans peeled whole tomatoes
Salt
Sauce:
In a 3-quart saucepan, heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add the onion and garlic and cook until soft and light golden brown, about 8 to 10 minutes. Add the thyme and carrot and cook 5 minutes more, until the carrot is quite soft. Add the tomatoes and juice and bring to a boil, stirring often. Lower the heat and simmer for 30 minutes until as thick as hot cereal. Season with salt and serve.
This sauce holds 1 week in the refrigerator or up to 6 months in the freezer.
Enjoy!!!
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Welcome
Welcome to our MOPS blog site! We are excited to get this up and running and hope you will enjoy visiting too. On here you will find announcements, recipes, mom tips, scripture and meeting topic reviews in case you miss a meeting.
Devotion
"My Face is shining upon you, beaming out Peace that transcends all understanding. You are surrounded by a sea of problems, but you are face to Face with ME, your Peace. As long as you focus on Me, you are safe. If you gaze too long at the myriad problems around you, you wil sink under the weight of your burdens. When you start to sink, simply call out "Help me, Jesus!" and I will ife you up.
The closer you live to Me, the safer you are. Circumstances around you are undulating, and there are treacherous-looking waves in the distance. Fix your eyes on Me, the One who never changes. By the time those waves reach you, they will have shrunk to proportions of My design. I am always beside you, helping you face today's waves. The future is a phantom, seeking to spook you. Laugh at the future! Stay close to me." (From Jesus Calling by Sarah Young)
Scripture: Phillipians 4:7; Matthew 14:30 and Hebrews 12:2
The closer you live to Me, the safer you are. Circumstances around you are undulating, and there are treacherous-looking waves in the distance. Fix your eyes on Me, the One who never changes. By the time those waves reach you, they will have shrunk to proportions of My design. I am always beside you, helping you face today's waves. The future is a phantom, seeking to spook you. Laugh at the future! Stay close to me." (From Jesus Calling by Sarah Young)
Scripture: Phillipians 4:7; Matthew 14:30 and Hebrews 12:2
Dr. Tip for Rehydrating sick young ones
I heard this from a friend's Dr. the other day. To keep young kids hydrated after the stomach flu, cut a clean washcloth in 2in. squares and soak in pedialyte, gatorade, water or watered down apple juice. Place in freezer on cookie sheet until frozen solid. Place in baggie and pull out as needed. This kept her 2 yr old happy and busy for 20 min. per square. There is only about a TB in there so it won't be too much on their system, but gets a bit of fluid back in. Plus if they are running a fever the coolness helps too.
Announcements
Our next meeting is Spa day, Jan. 27th!!
Come in comfy clothes and get ready to be pampered.
If we recieved your registration form last week you will be given an extra ticket for our raffle drawings. More information to come about those raffle drawings.
Our spa services will be first come first serve. Drop your kids off and head in early to sign up for ONE spa activity. (**You can not drop kids off before 9:15am)
It will be a very relaxing MOPS, you won't want to miss it!
Feb 18th: MOPS couples or singles night at Anthony's in Gig Harbor. Downstairs in the bar for Happy Hour. Food and drinks are optional if you just want to come hang out please do so! We will be there at 5:30pm. We hope you can come.
Come in comfy clothes and get ready to be pampered.
If we recieved your registration form last week you will be given an extra ticket for our raffle drawings. More information to come about those raffle drawings.
Our spa services will be first come first serve. Drop your kids off and head in early to sign up for ONE spa activity. (**You can not drop kids off before 9:15am)
It will be a very relaxing MOPS, you won't want to miss it!
Feb 18th: MOPS couples or singles night at Anthony's in Gig Harbor. Downstairs in the bar for Happy Hour. Food and drinks are optional if you just want to come hang out please do so! We will be there at 5:30pm. We hope you can come.
January 13th Meeting
This week we had the Executive Director from Tacoma Children's Museum speak at MOPS. She share some great information that I didn't get a chance to write down everything. Please comment some things that you learned below.
Here is what I took away from her talk.
1. Washington is doing a GREAT job at Early Childhood education! Yay us!
2. The Museum will be moving next Jan. to a new facility with better parking and a bigger building
3. It will be free (I am shocked at this so if I am wrong pleae tell me)
4. The most important thing you can do for your children is : LOVE them, TALK to them and PLAY with them.
Playing with my children imaginatively (is that a word, ha!)does not come easy to me. Even being a preschool teacher and nanny in my pre-mommy life. If you are like me or just can't pull yourself away from the messes you see around your house, then I encourage you to sit down for 15-30 min a day and play. I think we will actually be surprised at how easy and fun this can be. Just this week on our "snow" day I played homeschool (on man I have a whole other post for that), my kids loved that I played the teacher. Even today they asked to do it again. Try it and let us all know how it goes. Give yourself Grace too if you can't get to it daily. We are here to encourage and support one another in this gift of Motherhood.
Here is what I took away from her talk.
1. Washington is doing a GREAT job at Early Childhood education! Yay us!
2. The Museum will be moving next Jan. to a new facility with better parking and a bigger building
3. It will be free (I am shocked at this so if I am wrong pleae tell me)
4. The most important thing you can do for your children is : LOVE them, TALK to them and PLAY with them.
Playing with my children imaginatively (is that a word, ha!)does not come easy to me. Even being a preschool teacher and nanny in my pre-mommy life. If you are like me or just can't pull yourself away from the messes you see around your house, then I encourage you to sit down for 15-30 min a day and play. I think we will actually be surprised at how easy and fun this can be. Just this week on our "snow" day I played homeschool (on man I have a whole other post for that), my kids loved that I played the teacher. Even today they asked to do it again. Try it and let us all know how it goes. Give yourself Grace too if you can't get to it daily. We are here to encourage and support one another in this gift of Motherhood.
Chapel Hill Events
Please check out the Chapel Hill website for fun events coming up!
Currently couples life is happening wednesday nights for the next two wednesdays.
Tuesday morning women's bible study (TLC) will be starting a Beth Moore Study in Feb. Childcare provided by reservation.
Check with Tan Jenkins at 851-7779 for Monday Morning Out program to sign up for the new session coming up.
Spring Registration
We are accepting registration forms and payments for our Spring Semester. Please get your form into Laura Davis as soon as possible. Cost is $65 and if you are new to MOPS $90. If you are new to MOPS Laura our registrar will need to check if there is room for your child(ren) in our Moppets program. Please join us, we would love to have you there.
More coming soon
Check back for Recipes, Mentor Mom advice and "HELP" forums so we can share tips and ideas!
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